Do we really need any goals in life?

Its all in mind. Believe me its all in mind. Also, no one can help you but yourself. If you want to do something you really want, you can do it. If there is even an iota of doubt in your mind, and you don't want to do it. You will never be able to do it. 

The problem with me is I am still not sure, what I want. People talk about writing goals. But I do not have any goal. I am just living. Is living my goal. But people talk about such big goals and ambition. 

I have started believing that Not having any goal, is a way of life as well. I received an SMS from Isha Foundation where  Sadhguru states that  "There is no purpose to your life. If you experience the exuberance of this existence and the ecstasy of being here, will you bother about a purpose?"

So true! 

Do i need any big goal? NO.. My goal is to live life daily, in the best possible manner. Live life each day, so at the end of the day, i am satisfied with my life. 

Is it easy to live life like this? NO.. Its not. I am trying to do this. and will keep you updated about it. The challenges i face, and how i am overcoming it. 

why I do what I do

I was actually thinking why i do what i do.. and then did some research on internet, as well as heard some spiritual discourses and i came up with the following chain which leads to action.

It all starts with our thoughts whatever we think create emotions in us. emotions are nothing but feeling or reaction towards someone or something. and it usually involves EGO. feelings are normally body sensations that we feel, various emotions conclude to our feelings. what we talk, is basically derives from our thoughts, emotions and feelings and finally accordingly we act.

Hence once we understand this chain, we will be able to manipulate things that we do or things that we say or things that we feel or things that we think about.

believe me its not impossible to train our mind. It may be difficult, but once we start training it, it starts obeying us as a good pet. Its just that we need to be firm with it. Meditation and exercise can help us in training our mind.

I know, I also don't have a very obedient mind. I am also on this journey to help myself, and I want all of you too to help yourself.

weekend getaways near delhi

Taking breaks from work is necessary. Short, weekend breaks not only energized your body and mind but also give a new perspective to soul. Normally during such breaks, we should meditate and think about the various things which are put on somewhere on the last shelf, because of our  regular day to day work pressure.


Though yes, its good to have some someone along when you go on such breaks, but I dont mind going on such breaks all alone. Just to be with myself. Below is an image which i have taken from the website of  Journey Mart. But this image was really good and summarizes so many weekend get away destinations. I am really impressed by this.


So for the benefit of all my readers, here is the brief of weekend getaways near Delhi. 

Ten ways how not to think negative

mumbai beach in the evening

I am sure, you all must have gone through phases, which are not positive at all. When its down time for me, I know, I have to think positive. Everyone tells me to think positive, but then its difficult to think positive in such state.

I thought, and thought and concluded that rather I  would try not to think negative, and not to think anything. Be blank, perhaps that would be easier. Hence  I tried searching " how not to think negative" , and come up with the below list which i would like to share with you all. Against each point, I have also mentioned my thoughts & opinions . These are my personal thoughts and opinions. You may or may not agree to them, But I am sure, the ten points written here below will help all of you.

1. Exercise  
• (I am still planning to exercise since last ...don't know how many years. Believe me its very difficult for me. Still can try, after all everyone suggest this.)
2. Remove negative people or situations from your life 
• (I need to go to Himalayas for that)
3. Surround yourself with happy people, situations and things. 
• (Yes, i love colors and it gives me lot of positivism, so i am trying to think about colors more often.)
4. Positive self talk 
• (I love talking to myself, I am my best friend... But sometimes I take myself so granted that i don't listen to myself at all) 
5. Indulge in hobbies
• (Yes, till i am indulged in it, i don't think anything negative but as soon as i come out of it i again get surrounded by all negativity)
6. Think so much positive that negativity dilutes. 
• (I don't agree fully to it. Its more like hiding negativity behind positive facade, rather than removing negativity)
7. Remove the negative words from your dictionary like I  DON'T WANT TO HURT MYSELF.. rather say, i want myself happy. 
• (This helps a little Yes.. it does help... LOL and the name of this article is how NOT to think negative)
8. Try to think only those thoughts which  you can speak in front of all people. this way you will be able to stop many negative and stupid thoughts. 
• (Yes, perhaps this may work)
9. Choose Happy or Miserable life and then decide what to think. 
• (Thinking is so spontaneous.. decide to think.. my gosh too much work)
10. ACT - Just dont keep thinking. Act in a positive manner and this action will help you in removing your negative thoughts. Also Let Go of all negative thoughts, with positive action in your life. 
• (Ok this makes some sense to me. let's try.)

Life skills - what is it all about?

Life Skills is a very important area in today's time. Specially when we are concerned about employability of our professionally qualified youth. As per WHO 's definition of Life skills, these skills are “the abilities for adaptive and positive behaviour that enable individuals to deal effectively with the demands and challenges of everyday life”

The ten core life skills as laid down by WHO are given as below

Five reasons why I feel I am successful

sun in my hand

Success is a very relative term. We all define success as per ourselves. This post is about my idea of success. Yes, there may be lot of things, which I may not have achieved, there may still be lot of improvement areas in my life. Still I want to believe myself as successful. 

Here are the five reasons, why I think of myself as successful.

In Dino Kuch Kam Kam Lagne Laga Hai - The Poem

इन दिनों कुछ कम कम लगने लगा है !

इक दरवाज़ा था जो कभी कभी बोलता था 
उसे भी तेल लगा का चुप कर दिया है 
इक सोफा था,  जिसपर बैठने से कुछ मज़ेदार आवाजें सुनाई देती थी 
वोह भी किसी कबाड़ी की दूकान में सजा दिया है 
इक छिपकली आया करती थी, 
जिसे मच्छरों के पीछे दौड़ता देख कुछ समय गुज़र जाता था 
अब मच्छरों को धुएं से ही भगा देते हैं 
इन दिनों कुछ कम कम लगने लगा है !


इक आइना था जिस पर पड़ी दरार से 
हमें अपने ही दो अक्स दिखाई देते थे 
उसे भी किसी ने बदल दिया है 
वोह जो कुछ जोड़ी जूतों से लोगों के होने का एहसास होता था 
उन जूतों को इक अलमारी में बंद कर दिया है 
इन दिनों  कुछ कम कम लगने लगा है  !


कभी कभी हम खुद से ही बातें कर लेते थे 
अब तो हम अपनी ही बातों से बोर हो गए हैं 
इक डायरी के कुछ पन्नों पर कुछ कुछ  लिखा करते थे 
उस कलम की स्याही भी अब सूख चुकी है 
गाने के कुछ रिकॉर्ड संजो के रखे थे 
उन पर भी उम्र की धुल बैठ चुकी है 
इन दिनों कुछ कम कम लगने लगा है  

फिर भी ज़िन्दगी  को उम्मीद की धूप से निखार रहे हैं 
फिर भी दिल के कोनों में हरे पौधे सी खुशियाँ सींच  रहे हैं 
इन दिनों कुछ कम कम लगने लगा है 
फिर भी कुछ ज्यादा ज्यादा चाहने लगे है 

9Ps mentioned in "discover the diamond in you"

Today I read a book, written by Arindam Choudhary. I really like his writing style. He has written it in such an easy manner, that anyone will be able to understand the basic principles of life.  He has mentioned 9 Ps which are necessary to discover the diamond in you. Below listed are the nine Ps.

Life in the old age home

Today I went to the old age home along with my family. Our family generally go to the old age home occasionally to distributed some eatables, and spend time with them. We met them, sang few devotional songs and spend some time, tried spreading happiness in their lives. Everything looked good. All the members of the old age home, seemed happy. But somehow, I know they are not happy at the core of their heart.  The pain, hurt, depression of these old people staying in that old age home rub over me, every time i visit them.

Every time we go there life seems less glamorous to me. If I am going to be dependent on people like this during the later years of my life, then i don't want to live up till that time. Can I take my own life? No! I will never take my own life. Its completely against my principles as of now.

old age home members with the eatables